Orgy Gorgy

Is MORE always MERRIER?



A darkly lit room. Bodies writhing through the rhythm of moans and groans. Eyes darting, looking for a suitable partner for the night or just for the moment - or maybe even fulliling the voyeur in him. Out in the recieving area, a couple of guys share some laughs over some silly joke while others whisper to each other how hot was the guy who just came in. In another corner, you see the organizer talking to some of the guys who came in late.

Im sure these scenes are all too familiar to you. Im guessing that you've been to one or two gatherings. Most of you should have fond memories. Some had experiences that scarred them for life. But ultimately, its the thrill, excitement and sheer pleasure of the experience has made us come back for more. Everyone loves an orgy.

You're not truly a gay guy if you haven't been to one...well, okay...fine, if you don't go to one, its not my business. But orgies have been a defining moment for every gay guy where a range of emotions can be experienced. Most left with a fulfilled sense of being. Others left with a promise of blissful togetherness with another orgymate, while some, including myself, left experiencing the most brutal emotional rollercoaster a gay guy could ever experience.

Like any other meat market, orgies are validation events where one can truly confirm and find out if he is still indeed a SALABLE item. It is a gauge whether your goods are still up for prime mass consumption. Mind you, there are lot of guys that sell despite their age primarily because they have the protein shakes, testosterone shots and hours of laborious work with free and mechanical weights to back their creed up. There are guys that sell because they possess that cute boy next door charm. Others are consumed because of raw sex appeal. While the unfortunate few get left behind - standing in the corner, gawking at the scenes and secretly wished he was that power top hungrily pumping away (or the insatiable bottom underneath him).

I recently attended an orgy upon the invitation of an occasional fuck friend. Thinking that this was an intimate group activity, i decided to give it a try (he did promise that hunky and hot guys would be present). We met, went to the location and was greeted by organizer and some early birds. I've been to numerous orgies, but this, by far is the most organized. After having a few more guys enter the room, the orientation began. Personal stuff (wallets and mobile phones) were ziplocked and hidden in a safe, then we stripped to our undies. The orgynizer (lets call him by this word) then asked some of the boys to come in, while i begged him if i could stay for a while to "warm" up. My friend and i ended up talking about the two hunky guys who just came in (he invited them, btw, and recognized their faces - via g4m). I instantly had a feeling about the two guys. I told my friend that they are planning to make a run for the door because all they saw was us - me, a skinny guy who looked like i needed long bed rest, an early 20's guy who had the height and the form of a bamboo, and a mestizo 19 year old who looked bored. My friend was ok by gay guy standards but he kept his distance. Then when one of the hunky guys who was in the room stepped out for a drink, i immediately told my friend that they hunky guys are beginning to change their mind. My theory crystalized when 3 other hunks went in to the room. Moments later, they were stripping to their birthday suits then joined the action.

What happened to me? I stayed in the recieving area talking to the kids beside me. Sensing that they didnt have much orgy experience, i tried to tell them what i know from my wealth of orgy knowledge. I did try to go inside the main staging area, but i ended up screening for my friend because "he didnt want to join in the action". When it was 12 midnight, i decided to ask the orgynizer's permission to leave early. I left the place feeling a little sad. The next day, i texted my friend to find out what happened after i left. He said that one of the buff guys tried to get it on with him. And that the kids' crush was going after him too. But he "didnt have sex", he just stayed in the main room and chatted the night away. Well, that's how it ends. Some came and came. But some came and gone.

So, for the losers (like me) who woud find themselves in an orgy, here are some tips to take note of to get you through the night:


1. Always remember to wear respectable underwear (no bacon garters, please), put on some cologne or deodorant - in other words be hygienic.

2. Have enough sleep. Its bad manners to fall asleep in the orgy venue. Who knows, you might wake up and find yourself to be the center of a gang bang.

3. Keep warm. Orgynizers and attendees can be a bitch especially with climate control. One way to do this effectively is to stay in one area with the other participants. This is also a great way to mingle and get to know the other guys in case you are still undecided to jum into the fun or if you feel that you're not a hot item.

4. Never hang in the bathroom especially if its just one and if its inside the bedroom where all the action is taking place. Its torture enough to see all the hot guys going at it and you're sulking inside the cold walls of tiles, plumbing and mirrors.

5. Raid the buffet. If its free, eat, it can keep you warm. If you paid for something, eat - make use of your money's worth. Drink some alcohol too, it can help you losen up - and it may make your vision a bit better (in case you dont find anyone appealing but you're desperatly horny).

6. Talk with other guys who were "left out". They tend to be the best conversationalists.

7. Smile and losen up. Who knows, you might be the apple of someone's eye.

8. Learn to STERNLY say NO and learn when they guy you're trying to snag is SAYING NO to you. Respect is always the key.

9. If you're bottom, never get fucked if he isnt using WATER BASED LUBE. If your top, learn to use a CONDOM and WATER BASED LUBE. Trust me, it shall be the fuck of the century for you both.

10. Never attend an orgy with a mindset. You'll only go home dissapointed.


If you were to ask me,I would prefer a small crowd, say 7 guys (3 bottoms, 4 tops) who like each other and has great rapport than having a huge crowd where only a few gets to have pleasure. Orgies are not just about having sex with wild abandon - its also about enjoying languid sexuaity in unison, reaching a climactic satsfaction.

A change is in order

Are RESOLUTIONS good for just the beginning of a new year?

I guess the tone of my last post gave you an idea of my current state. I am unhappy of how my life is going right now. I feel that all aspects of it are failing miserably. Really, there is no one to blame, but my self. I guess im just trying to hide the fact that there is something seriously wrong with me and how i run my life. And now, im in a more serious slump, worse that what i had gone through the previous year.

I feel that i need to change alot. And this entry is dedicated to the things that I intend to change in the comming months. Like what my friend said, and I believe it's also written in the book "The Little Prince" - "tell the universe and it shall conspire to bing you what you desire." Im telling the universe now, or the world wide constellation of bloggers, at least of the things i intend to change and, hopefully, by this time next year i would've been successful at turning my lie arorund for the better.


From this point forward, I will:


LOVE MYSELF and accept myself for who i am, what i can become and what i cannot be.

REFRAIN from envying others because of what they have that i do not.

DISCONNECT from people who do not provide a positive influence in my life.

LET GO of the things that were and instead focus on the NOW and plan for the FUTURE.

RESPECT others for their individuality, choices, and preferences.

ACCEPT people for who they are and try to learn as much good things from them as possible.

LEARN the true value and purpose of life resources and harness them to gain a competetive and positive advantage.

RESPECT my body and treat it in the best possible way.


These are just some of the resolutions i have come up with in order to hopefully make a positive change. Somehow, the universe will conspire to help me achieve these goals and live for the better.

Rico Resurfaces...

I'm still here...

Many have been wondering where i have gone and what happened to me. Yes, im still alive and still trying to thread my way through this impossible needle hole of a life. Alot has happened since my last post - my grandmother's (father's side) death, my other grandmother's (mother's side) recovery from brain surgery, but sadly, she's now incapacitated...only a miracle would bring her back to her old self...may God bless her soul. We have finally bought that new house and would be making a comeback in our home town real soon, however, our financial woes prevent us from making the big move. Which reminds me, i still have to put up my grandma's house on the classifieds so we can sell it and use the proceeds to cover for her medical expenses.

Things aren't looking up for us if i could say so myself...add to that my internal conflicts and occassional depression. My self esteem has not been that healthy. I have been rebelling...manifestation of that would be my weekend getaways at my friend's house in QC. Me not being at my best at work. Forsaking my religious obligations for petty and unimportant things. The worst has come out of me...and for the first time in my life, I am affraid.

I'm affraid that no one likes me because of how i look, my attitude and demeanor.

I'm affraid that my family will not love me any more and deny me because i have been a bad son and brother.

I'm affraid that i do not have any more to give artistically and creatively because im uninspired and unimaginitive.

Im afraid that my shortcommings would affect my life greatly in ways that would inflict harm internally and externally.

What is a guy to do when it seems that the whole world is falling down on him?

But the question still remains - is this fear real or is it just imagined? Are the things in life psyching us out too quickly that we fail to see the opportunities behind the obstacles?

To be honest, I' affraid i do not know the answer to this.